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                Another school shooting, more dead and wounded, the assailant a
                hurting kid who couldn't handle anger.  Same story,
                different day, extensive media coverage, and the inevitable
                "why's" of the townspeople and the telecasters.
                 California is a very liberal state, so expect to hear that
                the guns are to blame.  As if guns hadn't been invented in
                my school days 50 years ago?  My family didn't own one ...
                but from age 9 to 15 I carried an illegal switchblade knife! 
                I had it for my own protection, not to harm anyone because they
                hurt my feelings.  Could I have become a criminal? 
                Sure, it wouldn't have been hard to stab some ornery kid teasing
                me.  Why didn't I do it?  Because it was ... WRONG! 
                You didn't kill people, even people who made you angry or hurt
                your feelings.  It was ... wrong!
                 We just do not seem to get the message that the school
                violence problem is an inside job ... the problem isn't the
                weapon of choice, but the choice to use the weapon.  That's
                an inside job ... inside the hearts and minds of kids who are
                unstable, vengeful, who have found no other way to vent their
                emotions and calm down.
                 School rage, along with road rage, soccer-mom rage, bar room
                rage, and sporting events rage is evidence that America has lost
                a lot of self-control.  We have "self" everything
                else, but we lack self-control.
                 Rage has grown to epidemic proportions in the last eight to
                ten years, during the leadership of a very liberal
                administration and a very anti-God movement in the schools,
                supported by our courts.
                 Meanwhile, mandatory classes in evolution are teaching that
                we're just products of chemical accidents that arose from
                primordial slime and will return to the dust.  Murders are
                a nightly routine in the cities.  Drug wars run rampant
                among armed gangs who have no qualms about shooting law
                enforcement officers, each other, or anyone in their way. 
                Kids can "divorce" parents they don't want to obey and
                the courts will support them, too.  Families are shattered,
                mixed, blended, confused, perhaps filled with domestic violence
                that we don't suspect.
                 
                Few people know their neighbors well.  Everyone's
                "too busy" for anyone else, often times that includes
                their own kids.
                 For a fact, I really didn't have anyone to talk to myself
                during my growing years.  Sometimes my mom would listen,
                and sometimes half way through my words she would just explode. 
                My mom had a lot of problems, one of them being that she was
                overly protective on one hand, and utterly unpredictable on the
                other.  She was also in need of treatment that perhaps
                wasn't available then.  But I seldom had a chance to talk. 
                My Dad?  Oh, he wanted me out of the house from the time I
                was about age three, and let me know it.  Hurt?  Yes,
                it hurt.  But I didn't kill anyone.
                 So why all this violence now?
                 First, we have not brought up a generation of children with
                respect for authority.  My generation was taught to
                "salute the uniform, not the person."  (That was
                frequently heard during World War II.)
                 Second, my generation was brought up without violence around
                to watch and imitate.  The most violent thing at the movies
                was The March of Time, and it was about the war. 
                Otherwise, the second most violent thing was a big fist fight or
                an occasional bullet fired at a notorious old west criminal. 
                Cartoons were funny, or silly, but not violent.  And the
                moral to any story was that crime doesn't pay.
                 Third, there was some general agreement that somewhere there
                is a God, even by those who weren't churched or professing
                believers.  Somewhere, there was a feeling of
                accountability for what we did.
                 Fourth, we had something called "discipline" both
                at home and in school.  It wasn't always fairly
                administered, but it was there and we were all aware of it. 
                It was viewed as one of those necessary things, not a reason for
                rage.
                 Fifth, mothers stayed at home, the family was a unit ... even
                an unhappy home like mine.  We were family, like it or not. 
                And family meant something.  It was identity.
                 Sixth, society's general standards weren't lax.  Words
                like "condom" were never mentioned.  Girls were
                sternly and frequently warned about the lifelong consequences of
                being a "bad girl" and as a result, teen pregnancy was
                extremely low.  If a girl erred, she was shuttled off to
                Aunt Susie's and the baby was immediately adopted out.
                 Seventh, we had a sense of shame.  What Hollywood and
                the media in general is producing is shameless now, so are the
                lyrics to many songs I don't listen to but hear about.  And
                a lot of it advocates violence, both domestic and civil.
                 Santee is not a ghetto area, it is described as
                "upscale."  So is Littleton, Colorado, scene of
                the Columbine shooting.  Apparently Santee is a very nice
                place to live.  But something in the life of one kid who
                turned into a raging school shooter was very wrong.  That
                something was on the inside of him.  When I was upset I
                turned to writing out my feelings in very abstract poetry (which
                my mother couldn't stand until I won the Poet Laureate trophy at
                my high school graduation).  Now, rather than writing it
                out, kids can shoot it out.  Not good!
                 We've heard it said so many times it's ad nauseum: 
                parents are their children's first teachers.  We have a
                parental failure on our hands ... people who know how to build a
                fine house but not a solid home.  Then we have the violent
                comic books, video games, movies, television programs and the
                nightly news complete with road rage and other rage.  We
                are a nation that kills its unborn or dumps newly-borns into
                dumpsters, and this is on the news also.  We have court
                decisions condemning carrying a Bible to school or discussing
                one's faith in God.  We have a nation of rebels against
                God.
                 We complain about the human rights violations of other
                nations and commit our own.
                 We even think it's worth millions to see a movie about
                Hannibal the Cannibal.
                 I wonder where our kids are getting all these violent
                notions?
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